For context, I’m circumcised and expecting a son and my wife and I are torn about the circ. We’re American so from a cultural standpoint circumcision is the default choice. Thing is, there’s no real benefit besides practicing a religion we don’t believe in, and I’m uncomfortable about cutting the tip of my son’s dick off.

On the other side, I’ve met a guy who was bullied in high school so bad for it he got a circ as an adult. Apparently crazy painful recovery. I’ve also talked to women who are generally grossed out by uncircumcised men. I don’t want to make him feel like something’s wrong with him his whole life because I was uncomfortable with the idea.

From a moral standpoint I’m against it, but from a social and cultural standpoint I feel like I should do it? It’s a crappy situation. If there’s any uncircumcised American men who want to talk about their penis I’m all ears.

Edit: I really appreciate everyone’s responses I never expected to hear from so many people. With the decision hinging on social and cultural norms it’s been really helpful to be able to take the temperature like this. I obviously need to talk to my wife, but given the overwhelming support of dick hats I don’t thing we’re going to do it. Thanks, lemmings!

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    In northern Africa it’s the cultural norm in many places to circumcise little girls. Removing the clitoral hood is the most common procedure, and is the exact same biological part as the foreskin on men, and fulfills the exact same purpose. Removing it decensitives the pleasure centre and is a way to minimize the person enjoying masturbation.

    Do you still think agree with following the cultural norm when I - factually correct - gender swapped the issue?

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      I don’t think you’re doing anyone a service by equating male circumcision with female genital mutilation. I think my response was nuanced enough, and I don’t have anything more to add.

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        What’s tragic is that you really seem to believe there’s any difference between these two circumstances.

        You live in a “my culture is better than yours” bubble.

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          In my culture we don’t cut the genitals of neither boys or girls when they’re born. You care to explain how this isn’t objectively better than the alternatives?

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            23 hours ago

            if I lived in the US, I’d probably do it for the reasons you mentioned - it’s the cultural norm there

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              I don’t live in the US. That is not my culture. You said that I live in a “my culture is better than yours” bubble. Please explain how my culture where we don’t cut the genitals of children is not objectively better than the alternatives. I don’t understand this insane purity test of yours.

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                The explanation lies in the quote of what you said, together with your reaction that the exact same procedure on a little girl is much worse than on a little boy. That reaction comes from your culture.

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                  Please educate yourself. You’re severely downplaying the brutality of female genital mutilation by equating it with male circumcision.