For context, I’m circumcised and expecting a son and my wife and I are torn about the circ. We’re American so from a cultural standpoint circumcision is the default choice. Thing is, there’s no real benefit besides practicing a religion we don’t believe in, and I’m uncomfortable about cutting the tip of my son’s dick off.

On the other side, I’ve met a guy who was bullied in high school so bad for it he got a circ as an adult. Apparently crazy painful recovery. I’ve also talked to women who are generally grossed out by uncircumcised men. I don’t want to make him feel like something’s wrong with him his whole life because I was uncomfortable with the idea.

From a moral standpoint I’m against it, but from a social and cultural standpoint I feel like I should do it? It’s a crappy situation. If there’s any uncircumcised American men who want to talk about their penis I’m all ears.

Edit: I really appreciate everyone’s responses I never expected to hear from so many people. With the decision hinging on social and cultural norms it’s been really helpful to be able to take the temperature like this. I obviously need to talk to my wife, but given the overwhelming support of dick hats I don’t thing we’re going to do it. Thanks, lemmings!

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    In my culture we don’t cut the genitals of neither boys or girls when they’re born. You care to explain how this isn’t objectively better than the alternatives?

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      if I lived in the US, I’d probably do it for the reasons you mentioned - it’s the cultural norm there

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        I don’t live in the US. That is not my culture. You said that I live in a “my culture is better than yours” bubble. Please explain how my culture where we don’t cut the genitals of children is not objectively better than the alternatives. I don’t understand this insane purity test of yours.

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          23 hours ago

          The explanation lies in the quote of what you said, together with your reaction that the exact same procedure on a little girl is much worse than on a little boy. That reaction comes from your culture.

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            Please educate yourself. You’re severely downplaying the brutality of female genital mutilation by equating it with male circumcision.