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Cake day: January 29th, 2025

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  • Thanks for your response, I honestly enjoy trying to understand other people’s opinions and you are clearly coming at this from a different experience to me. I dont draw comics or frequent their subreddits. I agree on her DCMA action being abusive of that system, and I don’t like it either - for me her behaviour is however softened somewhat by the fact a mod rejecting her proposal to remove her work suggested DCMA requests as her next step if she was unhappy with their response though.

    If she was intending to maliciously use DMCAs as a tactic though, it’s weird that she hasn’t gone after other subreddits after that win in the following year - if she was successful with DCMA takedowns on BHJ, why not go after r/comedynecrophilia next for instance? I don’t know what she decided, but it does seem like even prior to this affair she got a special kind of vitriol directed to her work that I just never understood (last time I was on Reddit regularly was late 2022 which was prior to any of this). Quickly looking on comedynecro they seem to constantly use her work and most of its pretty negative, so perhaps she is afraid of encouraging more blowback… Either way it must be pretty exhausting for (iirc?) some 1-person webcomic who has to engage with the community.

    I personally find her work pretty average (some is good but mostly just ok or meh), so I think I’m at my limit for going into the weeds on her personal reddit dramas. I take your position as sincere and it is a lot more nuanced than I thought at first, appreciate your time explaining it and I hope you enjoy the rest of your weekend.


  • I mean I read through the link your provided in your initial comment to explain your anger. If I missed context it’s because there was no further additional context provided at the time - onus is on you making the claim, not me. But ok you’ve got more…

    So I’m looking through the first comments section link and images for the misandry. Yeah, those jokes could be taken as borderline misandrist - I can see how some would interpret it that way. I can see how many would not - as ive heard many guys speak that way about women over my life. I can also see how they are possibly being misinterpreted - most of the comments are saying “men actually do get told these comments all the time”… And well I have spend a lot of time with a lot of women, and currently live with three… And this just isn’t my experience at all. As an example I have heard a lot of sympathy and empathy for bald men and guys that wear toupees. It’s not that women do not ever make these statements, but to pass them off as ‘common’ and ‘the norm’ like these commenters are is very weird to me as misandry has been a rarity in my life - and yes, I went to college, and spend a lot of time around self-professed feminists. I didn’t always agree with their opinions but we had good discussions that were not attacks or the vilification of all men, just around understanding one another’s issues.

    Looking through the thread comments there is actually a real “mens rights” undercurrent, anti-feminism and misogyny in the comments. I don’t have to dig deep in the thread either: top comment “As for the appearances, we are mocked relentlessly for trying too hard to modify our appearances.” Really? Not in my experience. That’d be unusual and rude. Third from top comment: “It’s supposed to be an example of how women don’t act, right? But they do all of that more than men do, it seems.” Riiiight. I’m getting a vibe here.

    I’m not familiar with the “LeftWingMaleAdvocates” sub reddit, mostly because Reddit is a cesspool I have avoided for years now, but these are not sounding like left-wing opinions at all. so what’s the vibe of their userbase… Let’s check overlap of users on LWMA with other subreddit to see what else they post on…

    https://subredditstats.com/subreddit-user-overlaps/leftwingmaleadvocates

    1000125062

    Ah yes, MGTOW, mensrights, menslib, ‘kotaku/tumblr/socialjusticeinaction’, ‘pussypassdenied’, ‘stupidpol’, ‘shitpoliticssays’ and a bunch of other right wing and incel subs that spend most of their time attempting to dump on feminists, social justice advocates, and anyone left-wing. Totally subs that ‘left-wing male advocates’ would be involved with.

    Bro this ‘evidence’ is hot trash, and you say this is it after “it’s been scrubbed of criticism” by the mods? I can only imagine how bad it was before. I’m not bothering to look further into your supplied links, don’t have all day to read mens rights activists talking crap about some webcomic lady.



  • I’ve read the exchange and she comes off mostly reasonable, and clearly fatigued. Summary follows.

    This is the kind of content (sorry, spoilers don't work on mobile).

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    She got sick of having to personally chase down and ask for removal of each offensive (to her) posts from BoneHurtingJuice after asking mods to handle it (with guidlines) for many months. They didn’t, instead they posted her request publicly after she explicitly asked them not to “lest it draw additional ire from BHG users”. It drew considerable attacks and she even had her patreon taken down by mass false reports for a while. She finally gave up on individual post modding and requested posts of her art to be banned entirely on the subreddit rules. The lone moderator said no, we will only remove individual posts, and “I’ll only remove your content if there is a significant majority in favour [on the subreddit]”, and if that’s not good enough then “if you want to file DMCAs or whatever then be my guest”. That is 1) empty promise as the mod knew her edited content was very popular, 2) a shit response for a mod to make to that request from the artist. So she filed DCMAs and lo and behold the mod made a blanket ban on her art for the sub - I guess it was possible.

    Sounds exhausting on her behalf and just looking at the comments on the BHJ threads and applying just a sprinkle of empathy I believe she’s not wrong - they’re toxic and many of them come across as fairly entitled edgelord kids.

    It’s a fucking bummer that the people here don’t know how much of a Karen pizzacake is. I literally just wrote a long ass comment yesterday about why she in particular is a piece of shit.

    People here might not think that because uhhh… this community is less toxic.




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  • The idea that you would cut off a part of your kids genitalia just so they could ‘fit in’ culturally is kinda blown away by the fact that it is now less common to be circumcised than being natural, even in the USA. By the time your kid is old enough to care, it will be a complete non-issue, and they can always get one as an adult if they want. Don’t take that agency away.

    https://www.medpagetoday.com/pediatrics/generalpediatrics/117464

    The idea that it has a population-level health benefit is completely debunked. It is medically advisable in only a tiny fraction of kids (sub 1%). The fact that %60 of the US population is circumcised is all thanks to religious hooey from puritans who don’t want children to masturbate, and think chopping a sensitive part of their genitals off to make it harder to enjoy is the best way to go - thanks to education and a wider exposure to the rest of the world via the Internet, US parents are finally realising this which is why it’s in decline.