That was me two years ago (and some change) when I was still married. My ex wife was the one to pull the trigger, and it was the best thing she could have done for the both of us (and our kids).

I was mad at her for a while. It was also terrifying having to move out and start over by myself, with no friends, and being a single father every other week. But I am sitting here in my house, hanging out after coming home from the gym, and simply enjoying the quiet time I have.

Yeah, I do miss having a relationship. It would be nice if I had friends too (I lost those in the divorce). But, it’s also nice to not have anybody but myself to answer to sometimes. And if I don’t do the dishes or take out the trash, there’s nobody there to give me attitude about it; it still gets done, but on my schedule and my terms.

All of that to say that if you’re genuinely not happy, and you feel there is nothing left to fight for, maybe leaving is not the worst thing you can do; it’s scary as fuck, but not that bad in the long run. Save your money, make your plans, and be open and honest with your partner when the time comes.

Yeah, it just sucks when that’s the majority of search engine results for something you desperately need an answer to, and there are no other sites with said information.

Don’t feed the trolls. It’s not worth it. 😊

Thank you for making my dating fails pale in comparison.

~Also, I am rooting for her getting a second date. That would make a great “How I Met Your Mother” story for the kids.~

I’m going to go out on a limb here and suggest maybe it’s not your view of life that’s getting downvoted, but how tone deaf you come off about how other people don’t necessarily hold your views.

Despite having hobbies, interests, getting out and doing positive things, I myself (for example) still feel defeated. And how I feel is just as valid as how you feel. That doesn’t necessarily make me emo, sappy, melancholy, cynical, nor pessimistic. Yes I can be all or some of those things, but then again, so can you.

So think on that before you start putting other people down for things you don’t necessarily understand.

Ps

The thread comments will further prove my point more than likely.

Now who’s being pessimistic and cynical?

You’re absolutely right about how no one has to respond or keep a conversation going past its expiration date. If anything, I just find it odd to match with someone and not take it any further.

I forget how they retrieved it.

You get an angry upvote for that. 🙄 🤣

I don’t think they needed surgery.

I’ll give you two guesses. The first guess (#1) doesn’t count. 😉

I read the first comment as if they said pecan. I read your comment as if you said pecan.

~And is toucan pronounced the same way?~

You don’t have to be a good person to do something good.